What happens when you judge a Mother
You lose an ally, in her and in you.
What I really wanted to write was, “every time you judge a mother, a puppy dies”.
For dramatic effect.
But I don’t have evidence.
What I DO have evidence of however, is the loss of an ally anytime you look down on another woman or mother and her choices.
Judgement is cold and hard. It constricts the flow of reciprocity.
Superiority (distorted insecurity / inferiority) kills expansion and co-creation potential.
Righteousness constipates life force. (And Mother is Life)
Rather BE and FEEL insecure. At least it’s TRUE.
We have so much more to learn from those we judge than we do from those who confirm our biases.
The consequences of superiority in mothering are isolating and devastating.
There is a well of liberation available to women when we stop competing and start collaborating. This is the way out of suffering.
Spend more time opening your heart to other women and mothers, especially the ones you judge or that do things differently to you, rather than trying to be the “best”.
The latter will never work because you’re doing it in isolation with your ego, the former is the best medicine for suffering because true community requires the humility of collaboration.
Your judgement might just be jealously and if it is, that’s a window into your desire.
Give thanks!
Now you know more about what you want, and the world needs mothers WANTING!
Join me and other wanting mothers in Mother Nurture, for our next full moon call on July 9 at 10am SAST.
We are not wed to any style of parenting or human-ing and that’s what makes it so nourishing.
You don’t need to be a free-birther or a homesteader or a homeschooler or a carnivore or a yogi or sober or a shaman or a good mommy or even a bad mommy…
If you need some inspiration, watch previews and purchase replays, here
It’s utterly horrifying how much our culture demonises the mother.
Mother’s are set up to fail and compete against each other because of our separatist, individualist world that needs us feeling isolated, insecure or holier than thou, in order to keep itself fed. Like a hungry monster; the one we feed inside ourselves anytime we use judgement as a way to feel better about our own inadequacies. When really all those insecurities are asking for is to be seen, loved and accepted in order to transform.
There is nothing more liberating than admitting how much we are “fucking up”. In doing so, we place the “fuck up” outside of us to SEE. We become separate from it.
And instead of sitting in front of a psychologist with a clipboard who is trained to track pathology, SHARE IT WITH OTHER MOTHERS, not as victims, but as a way to gain power over a part of you that is controlling how you are and feel.
What a gift, for you and for them.
This is what Mother Nurture is. Truly if I drill it down, and what separates it from many incomparable mom groups I have dipped my toe into, is the devotion and commitment to simply witnessing, accessing and being with, the deeper thing. The most true thing. (Not the pretend / ideal thing)
“The collective wisdom and support of the group is what makes it - experiences from mothers shared and received without judgement. The beauty and ugliness, weakness and strength, are all honoured equally in this community”
Jenny
It’s the thread of POWER that binds us all. Power that is available through our ability to SEE each other and SEE ourselves in each other. As well as the SIGHT of what is truly the most fucked up thing, OUR CULTURE.
We can only see this when we see ourselves in true reflection.
In Mother Nurture we are connected by our drive to create something new that doesn’t exist.
Even if its a zoom room in a small corner of the internet - IT’S SOMETHING. And what I have learned in holding, growing and nurturing this community for over 3 years is that the demons we are illuminating in mother nurture stop running the show because they are finally receiving the love they don’t get anywhere else.
They stop raising our children and leaking into our lives because they are FREE TO BE EXPOSED WITH NO JUDGEMENT.
(This month we are joined by Astrologer, Kambo practitioner, Actress / Comedian, Shamanista: Charlotte Donachie)
It’s going to be wild / normal / true ;)
Love,
Amy
“Anyone who feels drawn to this group, belongs in this group. I can say with near certainty that I am a better person for my participation here, and a better mother too”
Candice